Life Marched In! A Few Questions Answered

Hey, you all, we are going to slowly answer questions as a few require a lengthier response than others.

Morningstar asks, "How did you choose the name Baker?"

I completed a post on that early last year, so I will link that here. https://oursweetapproach.blogspot.com/2017/01/whats-in-name.html

An update on this is I did reconnect to the original Baker about a month ago via Facebook.  That has been a good thing, to get to know one another again.  I truly think she's still one of the most amazing and encouraging people I know.
Lea asks, "In your group of friends, what role do you play?"

I pondered this one quite a bit.  I am really black or white and rarely gray, well, I can be gray, but it would be a very interesting circumstance to get me to be gray.  Okay, that said I'd say, if I instigate and I am in charge of something I can be totally in charge.  If it's not really my deal I am just as happy, prefer this as I am in introvert, to sit quietly in the corner and hang out with one or two friends.  

I do not particularly like crowds, but our family is a crowd to some people, so I am not sure about that.  Maybe it simply depends on the company at hand. I do enjoy visiting with people.  Love one on one or two on one chats.  Those are times I can totally talk someone's head off.  

Maybe the best way to explain this is to give you an example  When I went to a women's retreat last month I was quiet, reserved and though thoughts swirled around in my head, I did not take much time to share my thoughts.  I tend to blush when put on the spot and sometimes become tongue tied.  At the same retreat was my bestie. She was seated at another table.  We had a great time in our hotel room and talked until we practically fell asleep visiting.  We talk almost every day, several times a day in real life, so that does not surprise me.  Hoss recently commented that he is amazed we even have anything to say to one another as we are always talking.  So maybe, under the right circumstances, I have the gift to gab afterall.

Part 1 of Roz's question.  What is your favorite movie?

I have several.  Dead Poet's Society, A League of Their Own, Beaches, Steel Magnolias, Remember the Titans, Miracle, Chronicles of Narnia, The Blind Side, The Hobbit, Lord of the Rings and Courageous or Fire Proof.  I'm sure there are others.  There are a few and ones I truly could watch over and over.  Hoss laughs that we are both into sports dramas.  

Well, I will continue to work on the other questions..  If you have any additional questions, I am listening!

Also, I am still waiting for a few more of those silent readers to come forth and say, "Hello!"  I really do encourage you to step out as I too know what that feels like.  I believe every blogger has felt the shyness and uncertainty of not knowing what to say.

Hope you are having a great week!

--Baker

Life Marched In! And So Did Hoss!

We received a few questions from you all asking for answers from Hoss.  So without further ado, here is my man with a post all his own.

An introduction is in order.  I have read most of all the posts, but never posted or commented on any yet...

My name is Hoss and with my wife we try to live a DD lifestyle.  My wife introduced me to to it about two years ago.  I was totally against it at first.  I was raised never raise your hand or paddle to a lady.  I have seen other relationships that were not DD, but abusive.  I didn't want anything that would open that door or appear to be that from the outside looking in.

I do have to say that my wife is persistent and we talked and talked.... and I asked and she answered my questions/concerns.  The rest has been put into words for good and bad for everyone to see.

Amy's question:

"Hoss, we blog friends get a lot out of sharing our experiences with each other.  As the HOH, do you have other men in your role who you confide in about this dynamic and if not, is there a question you would like the other men out there to answer?"

My answer:

Amy, I do not have any friends I confide in though I have read other posts and blogs from the web.

My questions for Eric and other HOH's is this:

How do I read when to stop?  My wife has shown that sometimes I stop too soon.  We haven't ever gone too far.

Consistency.  She has moods and sometimes it is frustrating to not discipline in the moment, but I don't want to discipline angry.  We have problems with being consistent on a daily basis as life gets in the way.  I need to redirect during those times and would appreciate suggestions on what others do or think.

Ronnie/s question.

"Have your or Hoss bought any new implements lately and if so what are they?"

My answer:

Nothing new, but have at least tried or use regularly the following implements....we have a houseful of kids.  We have the ever reliable Bertha, but she is LOUD!!!  But we have Loopy and SID and we have tried different household implements and different combinations of implements like Sloopy a combination of SID and Loopy  A hanger words really well. The tool used to spread frosting on a cake works well too (SID).  We have tried dowel rods and plastic dowel rods.  Most everything hurts in the moment, but Bertha has the best lasting power.  

Lindy's Question:

"If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you choose?  What's one item you always pack when travelling?" 

My answer:

Somewhere with my wife.  Anywhere that's not crazy hot.  We'd love to visit Alaska and Australia.  We love the mountains best.

Bertha is packed and her traveling companion (Baker).  

Roz's Question:

"What changes have you noticed in both yourself and Baker since started TTWD?"

My Answer:

We are both much calmer and have better communication.

Thanks for asking your questions!

--Hoss 

Life Marched In! Questions?

Hello, to everyone!  It has been forever since I wrote, seriously an entire month has succumbed to my busyness.  I have been reading as often as I can and being prodded by a few to get my questions and answer post up.  I often wonder what or why a blogger does not post for awhile. Yes, life gets in the way, but I also believe, for me at least, once I'm gone for a bit it's so much harder to get back into the swing of things.  No, there are things meandering around in my head that I want to discuss, but lack of privacy from the kids, time restraints, and knowing what topic will flow best from my fingers at the moment are big factors that come in here regularly.  There are times I will stare at the computer and have no idea where to start and end up with some of my favorite thoughts right there for everyone to read. Other times, I simply struggle through every word and it still does not sound right.  Those I will send to a blogging friend who will encourage me to put it up or make suggestions for changes.  Sometimes it will take Hoss validating my thoughts for me to know what I have written is true and to the point enough to be read by all of you.  That's a really weird description to why I've been MIA, but that's where my thoughts were and needed to share.

(Unfortunately, this is oh, so typical of my day)

So that brings me to this whole thought process of asking questions and answers.  I drive some of my people crazy simply because I like to ask questions.  I like to know answers, but the question has to be written out there to know what people are interested in.  I'm a bit backwards sometimes.  I also like to ask you all questions, to see where you are at as well.  Call it research.  Call it being annoying.  Call it what you will, but I have no idea how to make this work some days.  Sometimes it flows from the land of milk and honey and seems too good to be true.  

(I live by this motto with my poor, sweet man too)

So I ask you folks questions and many bloggers are excellent to respond with their thoughts, encouragement, etc.  But it's the silent readers, and I know there to be you aplenty, who remain there, almost in the shadows.  I wonder how to call you out of those quiet places to be apart of the conversation.  When I read my first TTWD/DD blog I was fearful to comment, but I did email the author of the blog rather quickly.  Besides I'm fairly computer illiterate at times and need extra instructions to make sure I do not delete my entire post because I'm too busy trying to figure out a link!  Blogger is also a bit of an annoyance in the fact that it regularly eats my comments.

(I like to think I am, every once and awhile)

Where does this lead this rambling post?  Well, to ask all of my readers, not just other bloggers, to step out of their comfort zone.  If you are not into commenting, but would like to send me an email, I'm good with that.  I also think if you want to comment ask a question and let's see where this takes us.  Ask me those hard questions.  

Like how in the world did we end up here?

Or why do I call myself Baker?  

Oh, or the one I wonder about the most, what do I look like when I'm blogging? 

Not really, I already know the answer to that one.  I look so silly making faces.  I know because when I read or write I tend to make facial expressions that go with what I'm reading or writing.  Trust me, my kids know when I'm texting friends I do the face thing.  I'm pretty much an open book like that, which is not to my advantage.

I doubt I have anything close to all the answers (there are days I'm lucky to remember why I came into a room), but I know l'd love to create a dialogue, I'd love to hear what you are thinking about, and how you do your version of DD or TTWD or d/s.  I enjoy learning about people.

(This is me....anticipating your questions)

So ask away....I may even be able to get my sweet man to chime in on some of his thoughts on this as well.  So let's all spill our guts a little and share...  Let's get those questions rolling out and I will happily do my best to answer them.

Much love to you all!
--Baker