Tuesday, April 7, 2020

There's Just Something About Bertha

You all remember, Bertha, right?  She's Hoss' favorite side kick from Spank-Nza (see how I did that there...play on words people with Spanking and Bonanza!)  A trusty, stout bath brush that has a powerful swat that reverberates on my bum.  Bertha has been with us through almost our entire DD journey, going on almost four years now.   (Has it seriously been that long?)
She is used for fun, those bristles can be rather stimulating. 

She can be used for resets, when just the right amount of reminder is felt when I sit down.

She is mostly used for discipline, as it's the one sidekick of Hoss' that just does the trick. (Going with a bit of a Western themed post today obviously.)

She's a sure fire way to get this girl to listen to her man faster than any other implement in the arsenal bag.

Well, Bertha has a significant downfall.

Think LOUD!  As in NOT something Hoss can use very often as she tends to be just THAT kind of loud.  So unless we get up super early...think 5 am, than Bertha is replaced by a less satisfying more intense Lulu aka loopy john.  Lulu has her own advantages.  She's quiet even when I am not.  Lulu is painful and I cannot handle her for long, but her biggest set back is she just doesn't have the same "impact" that sweet, old Bertha does.  In other words, no lasting effect on my bum.

There....I've said it...I do have a fave.

I know many of you are doubting my sanity at this point.  Just so you know, that's definitely in my thought process as well--sanity that is, but Bertha just has a way that makes me feel so right that the other implements just cannot seem to convey. 

Anyone else ever have those types of thoughts?  That one side kick fits the bill better than another?

Now, Hoss prefers to do a reset most nights and it helps me to sleep well. That man, knows his woman. It also puts to rest any issues we may have had during the day, but the things is, we cannot under normal circumstances pull Bertha out for that kind of a spanking.  Nah, she's gets to be substituted with Lulu or Sid or some wicked plastic hanger.  None of these implements are loud, so they are the obvious go to when our teens are still up.  And we all know teens, they are always up!
If, Hoss wants to make an impact though, one that lasts and leaves the most impression, than we fight the early morning desires to stay in bed and we take delight.  Yes, people, "delight," in using Bertha.  Let me see if I can make an attempt and briefly explain why.  (I hear you, Baker, don't go there, but I will anyway!  I'm a little nuts like that!)

When we first purchased Bertha it was simply to give her a try.  She gave Hoss a great amount of versatility and a little went a long way.  We knew she was loud though, but at that time we did not have teens staying up all hours like we do now.  Thus, other implements began to spring forth to help us continue our dynamic if we could not spank first thing in the morning (which morning is still my preference as it's the best way to set the mood for the day.)

Bertha also has a way of leaving that, "Oh, I can still feel it," later in the day.  A reminder, if you will, that Hoss expects me and I expect myself, to stay on task or to speak kindly to others, or whatever else Bertha was trying to remind me of that day.  It's not abusive in any way, because Bertha and Hoss together can help to clear my head like no other.  Those types of spankings are very helpful in relaxing my otherwise frazzled mind.  It's also good to settle me when I am blowing it.  I actually appreciate those spankings with Bertha more than I do any other.  I have no idea, but I do consider her to be "an old, trusty, reliable friend," in our DD journey.

Now, is that what I expected when she was purchased?  No, back then I just wanted to prove I could take it.  Or maybe that I felt the need to give everything a try, because of some story/blog or other I'd read about it on  Nah, I know I'd be hard pressed to explain any better than what I have above, but Bertha is what she is....a friend in all times.
My question is....how crazy is that?  (Pretty silly to me.) And do you have any implements that make you feel like you've found a trusty old friend?  (insert the song, "You've God A Friend In Me," here just to add to the sappiness of this post!)

I need to go show this to Hoss now, wish me luck, he may use Bertha more now, that I've explained how I feel!  EEK!


Sunday, April 5, 2020

Triple Threat

Sometimes, the lack of action in our own homes can lead to so pretty interesting discussions among DD blogging friends.  The other day, Kanga, Lindy and I were messaging back and forth.  I'm not exactly sure how the whole conversation came to be, but all of us have been experiencing a dry spell in the spanking department.  Well, I was actually not experiencing quite the dry spell they were, as Hoss had promised a much needed reset that night.  As we were chatting Hoss asked me what I was laughing about.  I said, "Oh, just these Aussie girls thinking I need to take one for the team!"  I giggled and he asked for clarification.  "Oh, Kanga won't be seeing action for a while and Lindy hasn't either, so Lindy thinks I need a triple threat and I should take a triple the length and time spanking to cover them as well!"  I was full of giggles and did not mind a bit sharing this silliness with my man.
I know, stop shaking your heads already.  You all know Hoss loves a challenge.  And yes, I realize that we're in a spanking marriage and should know better, but those girls distracted my good sense.  I'm telling you....they distracted me from realizing that Hoss would take this up as a challenge.  Some days folks, I'm not the smartest cookie in the box!  But this time, I have a reason.  I was having so much fun teasing with the girls that I never once gave our little side conversation much of a thought at all.  My poor, poor butt soon found out just how much a triple threat hurts!
By the way, Lindy and Kanga, deserve their own triple threats, thank you very much!  Naughty girls!

**Wrote this back in December 2019--still rubbing my bum four months later! (Just kidding, but I still think they need their own triple threats.)  I have not been around in a while and I'm trying to decide how to make time with sooo many people always lurking around, but definitely trying to get back into it.  Hugs, I've missed you all.


Friday, April 3, 2020

My Man, the Spanko

Okay, folks, when in the world did my husband decide that spanking me was okay?  I mean, really, we went from me having to coax every little spank out of the man to some guy that I do not recognize some days.  Let me give you a few scenarios of what I'm talking about here...

Bend over to pick up a piece of laundry off the floor, a loud clap on the bum.  Me, rubbing intently, glares at a smiling Hoss with that grin a mile wide across his face. 

Standing at the stove cooking dinner while the kids are playing outside or in their bedrooms, swish and swat!  Loud as a freaking firecracker and again that smile.  It's like he's enjoying it or something.

Or him wrapping me in his arm for a kiss or a hug and he pins my arms.  Swat! swat! SWAT!  Me giggling and wiggling to get out of his embrace and avoid the double swatting hands of his.

Walking past him to head up the stairs...what is it about him practically chasing me up the stairs trying to swat me with each step.  Awe, that man of mine... He makes my heart all a flutter.

There used to be days, I can barely remember them now, when he would need to be coaxed to swat.  More...harder....longer....  Now, it's me saying, "Hey, now!"  or "Really? The kids will hear!" 

Hoss, he just smiles, that big goofy grin that I love.  He shrugs and smiles.  And well, that's what it's all about anyway.  The joy in the knowing that this lifestyle is for us.

Have a good Friday.


Tuesday, December 10, 2019

The Great Online Cookie Exchange Is TODAY!!!

Hey, you all, it's that time of year again!  Time to tempt you to try something new and enjoy a few new recipes too!  So this year I am sharing one of our kids' favorite cookie recipes.  I know rolled sugar cookies are a dime a dozen, but this one I have used for years and I, kid you not, it's our favorite sugar cookie recipe ever!

1 1/2 cups of butter softened (that's three sticks if you're counting and I melt mine completely)
2 to 2 1/3 cups of white sugar (this will depend on how sweet you want the actual cookies)
4 eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla
5 cups of flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
Powdered sugar (I use powdered sugar rather than flour to roll the cookie dough in)

In a large mixing bowl cream together butter and sugar until well blended.  Beat in eggs and vanilla.  Then add flour and baking powder.   You can chill the mixture for an hour or overnight, but we use it right away.  If dough is very sticky add additional powdered sugar to your countertop.  I have found this gives the cookies a nice texture.

Bake for 6 to 8 minutes, but this will depend on the thickness of the cookie and size of the shapes you cut.  Cool completely before removing.

Other wonderful bakers out there who are sharing new recipes are:
little monkey
Mrs. Fever
selkie (blog here, recipe here)

Happy Christmas baking!

Monday, November 25, 2019


When Hoss and I started DD, just like many others, I did all the research before bringing the idea to him.  We started slow.  Hoss had given me one resounding swat during some mighty fine loving and he said the look on my face of surprise was all he needed to know that I was shocked, but curiously interested.  A short time later, I asked him to spank me one night while we were engaging in some "extracurricular exercise," in our room.  We have since added discipline, maintenance, resets, etc. to our repertoire.  We've grown, stretched, had set back, reevaluated every aspect of this since the very beginning.  There has been as many growths as steps backs and we have learned many things of value that have helped us become closer and earn greater trust in one another over the past three and a half years.
Over the weekend, Hoss and I had done some talking and I would like to open that discussion up here.  I know that many of you have been in a TTWD, DD, D/S relationship and some have tried one of the dynamics and then decided it was not for you or your loved one.  Others of you are still in that place where you are researching and searching for answers to why and what and who and the other myriad of questions we all have asked ourselves before.  Well, during our discussion I asked Hoss the question, "How did you known this was the right thing for us?"  and maybe more detailed, "How did you know it would work?"  His answer was simple, but heartfelt as he often is, "I saw that spark in your eye, and I knew we were onto something."
I often ponder over how this has evolved into Hoss often being more willing to spank than I am to receive said spanking.  I love his answer to this thought as well, "I know it works, I know how it makes you feel.  I see how it helps us."  I love that it is all about us.  That little word says so much.  It means so much.  It also must be noted that Hoss feels like when DD is at it's most prevalent that I am most willing to hear him, to truly listen to him, and that is what makes things feel so right.
I say these things because they continue to amaze me.  Not to say we are better or worse than any other couple out there.  We are just doing our own thing and trying to learn every day what would bring us closer together.  I reflect often of where we were and where we are now.   I am curious of the following things though about you all as well.

So without further ado feel free to answer all or just some of the questions or feel free to just say, "Hi," so I know you stopped in.

1. How do you feel your relationship has changed or grown or evolved since adding spanking to your relationship?

2. Do you feel your spouse as changed or grown as much as you have or less or the same or differently?

3.  What was your spouse's initial response to adding this whole spanking thing into your relationship?

4.  Has spanking improved things and if so, how so?

I know we all blog about a lot of different aspects of spanking, but these are just a few of the thoughts I ponder when I think about spanking.  And I often wonder what others responses would be.  Feel free to share.  No judgments made here, just interest and curiosity.  Thanks for stopping in!


Monday, November 18, 2019

Thank You!

Hello, everyone, I just wanted to thank everyone for stopping in last Thursday and Friday for LOL days!
I know it's hard to make those first comments and I remember hemming and hawing trying to decide what to say and who to say it to before I actually decided to leave those first comments.  I actually began by sending emails to the bloggers I was most interested in getting to know first.  It's hard to believe that I am so shy that I choose to say hi that way first, but I definitely felt way more secure in doing so.  It was so scary, but I'm so glad I did.  One blogger encouraged me to blog and I did, thanks to her advice.  I have made some really diverse and interesting friends by taking that first step.  I am thankful to those friends for all of their antics that keep me laughing and loving this community.
It's always my goal to be here more and more, but sometimes it happens less and less.  So I will try to make it my goal to post at least once a week from now until New Year's.  Things are calming down as our house guests are leaving by the end of the week. 
We have been so blessed (and sometimes stressed) through their stay, but God is good and we hope that groundwork has been laid for a smooth transition.  We will miss them, but are looking forward to having a "somewhat" normal return to our little daily life.

So, drop on over and give me a brief update on how things are for you and yours.  It does not need to be TTWD/DD related, just let Hoss and I know what we've been missing out on.  There is still regular spanking going on here and I will be posting about some of those coming up soon.  I am trying to ease back into the blogging, so please have patience with me.  I miss being here and I miss hearing from all of you!  So even though LOL day is over, if you want to reach out, and say, "Hey," feel free to do so!

And thanks again to Hermione for hosting LOL days again this year!  She did a fantabulous job!