Saturday, April 7, 2018

Dear Abby...Errr...Dear Amy?

Dear Abby was a post read for many years offering advice to others regarding etiquette, manners, etc.  Well, in blogland I inadvertently found my own Dear Abby in the form of Amy over at http://eric51amy49.blogspot.com.  She actually asked the first question in my March Q and A.  Asking if Hoss had any other questions for the HOHs out there in blogland.  Eric was the only HOH to respond in a post of his own, though I did get an email from Roz giving Rick’s ideas as well.  Hoss took some of that lovely information from Eric (who I used to think was a very sweet HOH, now I’m not so sure) and applied it….literally and liberally to my bottom.

Now, some of you newer or less adventurous readers out there may be wondering what in the world am I talking about.  Well let’s put it this way...it was not a spanking that Eric suggested.  I would have probably been a bit chagrined if he suggested I needed one, but I am used to spankings as well, being Baker and all, I tend to be in trouble more often than the rest of you very submissive souls (snickering).  

No, Eric, in his HOH wisdom, suggested something by the name of capsicum cream.  Does this ring any bells with anyone else out there?  Well, there are some things that Eric suggested here that required a bit of further information, as we had never tried anything like capsicum before.  Something to do with where that capsicum should go.  So off I went to send a little email asking for verification and further explanation on what this was all about.  Afterall, there were a few horror stories out there that I had no desire to be apart of any way, shape, or form.

Dear Amy, well, she gave some very, very pertinent advice in her response back.  Good information.  It included the cream will last up to 24 hours after application (seriously good info to know), it can be activated by heat (her example included sun hitting the seat in her car and rewarming her backside), and best of all the antidote of using milk (definitely a need to know if for some reason your HOH applies a bit too much to your hiney}.  She described the feeling as being that warm after spanked burn or sting that we all enjoy.  In my mind I’m thinking, it really cannot be that bad, as Eric and Dear Amy seem to use it regularly and know what they are talking about.   I thanked her, thinking I had all the of the best information friendship can buy, informed Hoss of the information, and I purchased the capsicum cream once he thought it might be worth the try.

So about two weeks ago was our first introduction to this “silent spanking” cream.  Well, my first introduction as you all know was Hoss applying it, not participating, even though I suggested he should.  (I’ve been told I’m sassy that way!)  Well, let’s say it was just as she described.  A nice after spanked feeling that lasts and lasts and well, lasts.  Not awful, in my humble opinion.  Not dramatic, but it did one thing I was not expecting.  It changed my attitude.  I had been feeling a bit snarky and I went from snarky to, “I love my man!” within just a few minutes.  It was also a very good reminder all day long.  Hoss checked on me regularly to make sure it was not too uncomfortable or anything.  I have to admit there were a few times I was silently cursing Amy, as the lingering sting went on all day long.  Even though I enjoy the after spanked feeling as much as the next girl, all day was too long to feel that way.

The surprise came the next day.  I woke up with a migraine.  Mind you I rarely have migraines.   Part of me worried if there was a connection between the “cap” cream and the migraine, but it was just impossible to know as my neck and shoulders were hurting as well.  I thought perhaps I had slept wrong  Regardless, Hoss called from church and suggested I take a nice hot shower and loosen up those upper back muscles.  Ahhh, that sounded really good.

STOP LAUGHING!  You may know what was going to happen, but I am still in the learning stage here and well..I was not thinking clearly from the pain meds.   I said to stop... I can hear you giggling and snorting your coffee.  Enough already!

So I get into the shower.  Things are going fine as I stand with the water hitting my face and front.  I’m enjoying the shower until...I had to turn around.  I turned to allow the water to hit my shoulders and things went wrong…  Like I was literally doing a “just spanked dance” in the shower while trying to let the water hit my shoulders.  After about 30 seconds, I realized Dear Amy was dead wrong.  It can last wwwwayyy more than 24 hours (we were looking around 28 at this point) and I gave up and got out.  The burn was intense.  I was rubbing and dancing and calling Hoss from the bathroom.  Mind you, Hoss is at church, but I called his cell anyway.  I had many not so nice things to say about Dear Amy and her advice right then.  And do you know what that man said?  He laughed. My head is hurting, my bum is burning, and my man is laughing and snorting into the phone at my predicament.  (Be careful, folks, no spilling your coffee or tea here!)  He kindly got himself under control and suggested I go back to bed and rest up. I did.  Yes, I can be obedient that way.  (I know, hard to believe, right?  Had to have been the migraine).  The cool sheets felt very nice and helped to take away some of the burn.  

The next day I was feeling much better and had my second dose as well, sorry folks, Hoss knew he was on to something that worked when I needed the extra incentive to behave.  The problem here was that I had just taken a nice long hot shower.  Do you all know what happens when you have a nice long hot shower?  Yeah, me neither.  Well….it opens up your pores!  Like it really opens up your pores and that cap cream, well, let’s just say it hurt like it did the day before, just way more intense.  That just spanked feeling, it lasted all day with a very hot bum.   It was also a day that most of my things on my “to do list,” had to be done while sitting, so it kept me plenty warm, to say the least.  What fascinated me again though, was how compliant I felt inside and I felt good inside even if my bum did not fare to well.  Thankfully, folding chairs tend to be cool, even if they are hard, and it kept the warmth from getting out of control.

I finally emailed Dear Amy and got a wonderful response.  You guessed it, she was laughing!  She said, “I gave you the antidote.” Well, yeah, she did that.  So came my grumblings and complaining.  Dear Amy, I love you, girl, but see there is a wee bit of a thing that neither you or I considered in our discussions.  We are not at the same season of life as you guys.  We have loads of young tender minds wandering around.  The only bath we have is in their bathroom.  If momma had walked upstairs, grabbed a gallon of milk out of the fridge and started filling up the bath I’d have loads of explaining to do.  The burn on my butt, was way more tolerable than the headache that would have been caused by all the questions those little and not so little people would have asked.  Oh, and that applying the cap cream after a shower.  Yeah, she thought I knew the answer to that one too.  I can laugh now at my naivete, and it’s thanks to Dear Amy as she definitely helped me to see the humor in all of this!   So, I learned something valuable about Dear Amy.  I need to ask heaps and tons of questions just to make sure I have all the information needed before I bring an idea to Hoss.  I also need to realize all of the trial and error we have had is helpful to all of you out there.  No thanks needed, it was worth it.

So, things to know about cap cream as shared by Amy----AFTER THE FACT as well as a few of my own observations!

1. Do NOT take a shower prior to application.
2. It can last up to 48 hours (Thanks to Cat for that tip!)
3. Heat really and truly can reactivate it every single time.
4. After awhile that just been spanked feeling is not as fun hours later.
5. That I hide my bum at the mere thought of cap cream being mentioned by Hoss.  (Just 
so you know, backing against the door with hands securely attached to your backside 
does not aid in it not being applied.)
6. The saying, “Do not try this at home,” could definitely be applied to this post.
7. Do not suggest to Hoss that it works best if the cap cream is applied prior to a spanking.  
(Pray he skims over this part when he reads this…)
8. Finally, you can take a shower afterwards if and only if you are brave enough and smart 
enough to put your bum against the shower wall and keep it there while you turn just enough to wash your hair and body.  Trust me on this one, it will safe you a great deal of pain.
9.  Make sure your HOH puts gloves.  Without gloves there is a serious risk of not washing all of the cream off his hands.  Ensure you do not touch your bum after application.  You do NOT want to risk touching a sensitive area such as your eyes, nose or private areas.  This is a bum cream ONLY.
10. Double check you are not allergic to any of the ingredients in the cap cream.  You could also try a teeny amount first to see if you have any type of allergic reaction.

Dear Amy, you are an awesome lady and I do appreciate all of the advice.  I will make sure in the future when I pick your brain, to ask many, many questions even if I think I’ve got something figured out.  Would have saved me from that “shower dance” and the “after shower my pores are open dance!”  or learning how to manipulate the shower or….anyway, you get the picture!  Thanks, Eric and Amy, for your help and for reviewing my post!

--Baker 



45 comments:

  1. Dear Bright Bottom Baker,
    Eric and I are still, sorry to say, laughing at your tales (tail? lol) of the cap cream drama. We discovered it as a way to give me that freshly spanked feeling while he is traveling and it does work well. Once Eric came home after that first use, he too wanted to test it out on me and his favorite routine is cream first, spanking with a wooden paddle over tight running shorts, and then bare ass corner time. Quite effective, I must say. Best of luck to you and Hoss on your adventures. As for the milk, I think I'd be keeping a shallow baking pan under my bed just in case I needed a quick dip. ;)
    "Dear Amy"
    PS- Anyone else wanting to try Capsicum Cream... you can always give it a go BEFORE mentioning it to your HOH. Figure out your own tolerance, etc. prior to having it inflicted on you. (Yes Baker, more pertinent advice I forgot to mention. Sorry!)

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    1. Yes, Dear Amy,
      Your advice was helpful if not a teeny bit late. Thanks anyway, I doubt we would have been quite this adventureous without your encouragement.
      --Baker

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  2. BAHAHAHAHA Sorry, I really shouldn't laugh, but Hoss laughing had me laughing. :) Thank you so much for sharing your tips. It lasting for 48 hours is DEFINITELY a good one to know! :) And that hot showers reactivate it. :) I was dead set against trying it... but hearing how it made you go all mushy with Hoss, makes me reconsider... though you did say it got to be a bit much after hours... so still debating. lol
    EsMay

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    1. EsMay,

      Told you all not to laugh so hard! It's me you're talking about and well, we all know I'm a goof!

      I do not blame you worrying about it, but I do think it would be a wonderful idea to try Amy's suggestion and try it on yourself first. It's an idea at least. But then again when you're climbing out of your skin Duke may wonder what in the world is going on...just saying!
      --Baker

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    2. EsMay, I suffer from migraines and I thought I read on your blog that you do as well. Baker, did you get a migraine the second time you used it or no?

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    3. I know EsMay has said that recently on her blog. I do not typically do. This incident happened when we switched side of the bed and I had a migraine off and on for at least four days. Once I switched pillows it went away. So I'm pretty sure it wasn't the the cream. If it happens again I'll let everyone know. Thanks for thinking of that, Windy.
      --Baker

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  3. Oh my goodness Baker, this had me laughing all the way through. SORRY! I know it wouldn't be funny, just the way you've written it up makes it sound it though.
    I must remember all those instructions in case one mysteriously appears in my letter box one day. Thanks for the advice.
    I hope Hoss doesn't read here and see the part about applying before a spanking.
    Best go as I have to clean up my tea I snorted whilst laughing so hard.
    Hugs Lindy xxx

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    1. Oh, Lindy, I will have to say I warned you about snorting the tea! And you all say I never listen. LOL! I do believe that your Bear would really appreciate the idea! Just kidding. Thanks for giggling along with me. Who knows what may end up in your mailbox soon!
      --Baker

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  4. Dear Baker,
    What a hilarious story. Even funnier to me because for some reason, I thought you were somewhat elderly when I was reading the first part of your story. (I am getting some of you lady bloggers confused as I am a new to blog land. lol) So at first I was feeling sorry for you and imagining this sweet grandma- type gal and wondering what butt-trouble your friend Amy got you into. I even imagined Hoss being an elder of the church answering your phone call and snickering at you. Anyway, thanks for sharing and I am NOT even mentioning that scary cream to my husband!!

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    1. Nice to hear from you, Windy, and nope there only a few bloggers around my age (early 40s) that I'm aware of anyway, so that gave me quite the giggle.

      Oh, come now, I have decided that I need to be open to new ideas. And for us living with a houseful, we needed to be more creative. There are simply some days that things do not work out for us to always have that time for spankings, fun, reset or anything. This has shown to be a really good alternative for us who sometimes truly need a silent spanking. It was such an attitude changer for me as well. Therein, is the benefit.
      Come visiting again, soon. By the way, I mixed everyone up for quite a bit too. No worries, there.
      --Baker

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    2. Baker,
      I am upper forties. I understand about having next to no privacy most of the time for the things that make noise and nakedness. It is very frustrating and we are a "work in progress" as we try to figure this out. I applaud you for being courageous!

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    3. Lol, courageous is a good way to think of it...others know better (think of me as goofy), but still glad to have that as a compliment! Very kind of you! Feel free to email me. I have no answers,but we can always enjoy supporting one another.
      --Baker

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    4. You have no answers?! That made me laugh again. You probably know more than you think you do. Thanks for offering support. You can e-mail me, too, but I guarantee I do not know all that these smart lady bloggers know!

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    5. Something good to know is I think many of us are still learning as we go. I'll respond shortly to your email request.
      --Baker

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  5. Well I am a grandma type...and yes I could have told you about the after shower dance.....M loves that the effects last and keep my very submissive...Love the way your wrote this..yes I was laughing, but trying to be quiet, did not want M to ask what was so funny...hugs abby

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    1. Not fair, Abby, so not fair. I thought you'd be eager to share the giggle with M! (Snickering). As I told Amy, that would have been pertinent need to know information! I had to giggle that you too have experienced that dance. LOL!
      --Baker

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  6. Baker,
    Here is where I am.......... why would you do this? Why?
    Meredith

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    1. M,
      It's actually pretty simple. Hoss and I have been extremely pressed for time since the beginning of the year. When this idea was presented to us, we agreed to give it a try. The feeling of submissiveness that comes from that after spanking feeling works, really well for me, and to us it is worth it if it provides more peace in our home. I really suggest it to others in a situation like ours to at least give it a try. Those of you who are past this season of life, may want to give it a try as well. Those times when you travel or have guests...Who knows what possibilities may arise that you need a silent type of spanking? I just know it worked well for us!
      --Baker

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    2. We all have our own way of practicing TTWD/DD. Some of us don't have others living in our homes, so if a spanking is noisy it doesn't matter.
      In Bakers case she has a house full, so Hoss needs to implement silent spankings. This is their version of DD, so if it works that's all that matters. Its not up to us to be judgemental of others. There is no right or wrong way, no one size fits all.

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    3. Thank you for explaining it a bit more.
      M

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  7. We don't use cap cream, but I know the premise behind it much like jalapeno pepper oil ( or well any hot pepper oil). While milk does dull the pain, next time use hand sanitizer. The gel helps it not evaporate like rubbing alcohol which also can bring heat, but cuts through the oil residue on the skin. It may take several applications, but there is relief in between. The last time my hands burned from cutting extremely hot peppers, I had to apply the hand sanitizer ( and the burn really didn't start until 5 hours later) every 5 minutes for an hour.

    We all laugh and joke about these creams and oils ( trust me peppermint might be a nice thing for your feet, but place it other areas, and well, it too is an attention getter!), but please use sparingly and with caution. Many allergies and sensitivities are accumulative, so just because one didn't burn too much the first time doesn't mean it won't be worse the next time. LOL. Trust me.


    willie

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    1. Thanks, Willie, for that information as well. I had no idea oils could do that as well. I used peppermint oil on my temples for my migraine. Something to be weary of,thanks!
      --Baker

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    2. Oh gosh, I don't know if you took it to mean that some day your peppermint oil could burn you. I suppose it could be interpreted that way. I mostly meant that the cap cream could get worse and worse as you use it ( or the reverse). As for the peppermint comment, um Barney has used it on certain more sensitive 'bits' to get me to focus on, well let's just say him. LOL. It can burn. It also can be applied to the back or other areas before/after impact which causes a lingering feeling.

      For those who aren't so keen on the burn of the cap cream, they can 'start' with those cooling ice type gels that people use for muscles. They don't cause pain, but they do tingle. I have been told to put that on before we go shopping so I don't walk too far ahead. Just a few thoughts.

      I hope you still use your peppermint oil worry free for your headaches (and I hope you don't think about where I have to had it applied when you do! LOL)
      willie

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    3. No,I understood. I just was saying I didn't realize peppermint oil could be used elsewhere or that each experience would be different. I can attest that the cap cream totally depends on the amount, heat prior to application, if your pores are open or not, and how well it's rubbed in. So I agree each experience has been different.
      --Baker

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  8. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
    Hey Baker...if you need to use the milk, pour a large glass and take it to your bathroom. Stand in the shower, dip a washcloth in the milk and lay it against your tush. Once the worst of the burn stops, carefully pour the milk on your tushie. Just be careful that Hoss doesn't apply Cap cream and then tell you that you're not allowed to go near the milk except to serve the children. LOL

    Hugs and blessings...Cat 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

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    1. Awww, Cat, that is a really great suggestion. I'll definitely keep it in mind. Thanks for the suggestion! Sounds like you may be speaking from experience?
      --Baker

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  9. When I read Eric's mention of Capsicum in his response to Hoss's question, I went hmmmmm, remembering my Gram used to make homemade Cap Cream for headaches. Glad you had the courage to ask the questions, be the guinea pig and share all the answers with us!
    ... and btw ... Frank told me he read this post and had a good laugh about it ... not sure if that has any future meaning for me :>)) ... nj

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    1. Nora Jean,
      Make sure he takes those warnings seriously! Lol! You may find that spanking dance in your future too.

      I wonder if your Grandma's cap cream was equivalent to what we have now...very interesting.

      Amy is the true guinea pig here, she's the one who helped to clarify for the rest of us! Thanks again, Amy and Eric! I think you all definitely gave us food for thought.

      --Baker

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  10. Hi Baker,

    Sorry, but I am laughing too, more at how you wrote this than tbe predicament you were in. I knew exactly where this was headed as soon as you mentioned the word 'shower' LoL... oops, sorry :) I had to laugh at your call to Hoss too, glad he was able to stop laughing :)

    Some great tips for using the cap cream, particularly about its use both before and after a shower and No's 9 and 10.

    Ok, stopping laughing now.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz, my man is still laughing! He likes the fact that the meer mention of it has me listening in two seconds flat.

      I do not mind you laughing at all. I love that we can share this experience and have others learn right along with us. I really had no idea how much it would help Hoss and I reconnect when there is not time to deal with my attitude or help me with stress.
      --Baker

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  11. I have to say this sounds like a lot of fun - perhaps more from the reading than actually trying it. But still, very interesting!

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    1. PK,
      I think I'm surprised by my reaction and how it has helped. At the time, when I'm grumbling about it, I still find myself realizing that I'm more motivated and submissive. That is definitely an advantage. Glad you enjoyed reading my post as much as I enjoyed putting my experience down for you all to read.
      --Baker

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  12. Oh Baker! :) This made me feel bad for you, and laugh too! Not something that will be happening here at all! If it acts like that on a bottom (or anywhere) how is it something that helps those with arthritis type ailments to feel better? That is what came to my mind here... YIKES!

    Looks like you received loads of good advice for moving forward. You gave some too, for those eager to try. Loved the Dear Abby take. Be very good! Many hugs,

    ❤️Katie

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    1. Katie, do not feel bad for me. I am learning and this is something that is working well for us right now when things and schedules are not permitting us to have the time we need to.

      And yes...these ladies have all provided so much good information, I'm very appreciative.
      --Baker

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    2. Hi Baker, :) I’m not questioning your use of the cream. We all do things our own ways/find things that work for us. I just felt bad for you because it must have been painful, because you are learning. I’d feel bad for anyone that got an unwanted effect from a spanking or injury etc.
      I still do wonder how it helps people with arthritis, etc...

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    3. It's okay, Katie, I did check out how cap cream works. It actually works on the nerve receptors to decrease their perception of pain. If used regularly,as in daily,it will keep pain to a minimum for arthritis sufferers. The arthritis foundation has a good article on how it works. I'm sure I butchered it to some degree in my interpretation.

      No worries on the other.
      --Baker

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  13. I have HAD such trouble getting into your blog recently :( BUT thankfully made it today to read your experience with the cap cream -- Sir Steve looked over to see what I was giggling over and of course wanted an explanation -- GEEZ!

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    1. I'm so sorry, MS, that's no fun. I had trouble with others blogs being that way a few weeks ago. Now it appears it may have fixed itself. Hoping it does the same for you.

      I warned you all to stop laughing so you wouldn't spill your drinks, never thought you all would need to worry about drawing attention from your men. whoops! Sorry! Hope that conversation ended well.
      --Baker

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  14. Oh boy do I FEEL your pain! I wrote a couple of posts on this OMG! My hands were shaking! Lol I did use Cats remedy! Not sure if I used it with the Cap cream or the cinnamon oil. Why I tried to experiment...... I will never ever know!

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    1. Oh,Minelle,so happy to hear from you. Glad to know we aren't the only ones into experimenting. And I believe I read about your experience before. Yes, totally understand where you are coming from,but my experience was not that awful. It burned like fire yes, but overall, unless I'm goofy and reactivate it,I don't find it awful. Maybe it's just me.
      --Baker

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  15. Well, I am late to the party since I have been without internet. Do not think I am interested in this cap cream stuff. Sounds awful to me.

    Glad you have recovered. I would accidentally on purpose put that tube in the trash bin on garbage pick up day.

    Just Saying,
    Ella

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    1. Oh, Miss Ella, so would have thought you'd at least want to give it a go😉. NOT!

      Anyway, probably won't throw it away. I value sitting enough not to do that...
      --Baker

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  16. i spat out half my mouthful of chips when i got to the hot shower bit. oh dearie me, i do hope you take wilma's advice tho - these things can have different outcomes each time you use them. and if you DO want to experiment with peppermint oil in other places (other than your temples) maybe try diluting it in a carrier oil first eh? I'm sorry you had to go thru all that, but it sure made for an entertaining post!

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    1. I keep giving warning of danger ahead and no one wants to follow instructions ;-) .LOL!!
      Glad you enjoyed the post.
      --Baker

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