Last year this really felt like where we were at in our lives.
So that leads me to some of those funny things that my sweet man says to me that allows his humor to de-escalate a situation or let me know when I am about to be spanked for my attitude. These he uses always with a smile on his lips and a twinkle in his eye, but I do know where I stand. Maybe your HOH has similar ways to let you know that he is just about had enough and a spanking is imminent.
Phrases like, “you’re climbing that mountain, watch out for the cliff.”
May look pretty from here, but that's far enough, wouldn't you say?
“You really don’t want to climb another rung on that ladder, do you? You know what happens when you reach the top.”
Doubt mine reaches this high, more like three rungs most days!
“You’ve fallen off that cliff, watch out for the boulders on your way down.” This was said when I had already crossed the line and the spanking was going to happen and well, I just could not keep my mouth closed or attitude in check. Yes, I know, what am I thinking some days????
He also has a look, a hand on my leg, taps repeatedly on something or makes imaginary tally marks in the air, but these little sayings are his polite way to remind me that I’m getting close to that edge and well, do I really want to step over it?
How about you? Any fun sayings that help to trigger that response that you need to wait, stop, rethink your behavior and help you readjust your attitude without having the inevitable happen? Or are all your reminders nonverbal cues that you and you alone know what he means?
-Baker
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Oh yes..our 'little secret language'...isn't it wonderful. As simple as a raised eyebrow, any sentence with a reference that we have not checked out things in the basement lately (that is were Punishment spankings occur, a reference to digging my house a hole..or a reference to me tarnidhing my halo..are a few. hugs abby
ReplyDeleteAbby,
DeleteI love all of those phrases. Yes, I've dug my hole a little too deep before too. Lol. Tarnished halo one is quite sweet! Thanks for adding yours. It's funny because even when he's saying them my tummy does a flip flop and my heart goes all mushy for him.
--Baker
This sounds wonderful and I do envy you. Words/phrases are so powerful. Nick never got in the habit of using any. I guess I never gave him the chance - I'll too well behaved! Ha what a joke, it's just that all my foot stomping, cussing, finger gesture, rants are done silently in my mind and he never know about them.
ReplyDeletePK,
DeleteI'm not someone to envy, maybe more someone to giggle at instead. I do climb into a lot of attitude trouble, maybe I should just do it in my head like you do and avoid the trouble I keep bringing down upon myself. I do believe the words and phrases are indeed powerfully important. I just wish I'd learn to heed those warnings better.
--Baker
I might have to let my hubby read this. I so love the codes phrases that are possible with dd. It's like our little secret that the world around us is clueless about. Your man's phrases are too funny as well! I have definitely fallen off a cliff or two or three here recently.
ReplyDeleteLol, S, yes, definitely share, but realize they are cute when the phrase stops you. Not so much fun if they lead to a discipline spanking because you did not heed his words. Trust me on this one.
Delete--Baker
LOL Baker...Do like your man's sense of humor. Matthew's favorites were "Do you think this is in your best interest?", "Do you really want to go there?" and "Don't even think about it!" If we were in public, he'd either tap his belt buckle or scratch is palm and tell me his hand was getting itchy. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteHugs and blessings...Cat
Cat,
DeleteYes, my man has said, "Do you really want to go there," to me before. I have actually been crazy enough to answer, "yes!" Can we say that is not something I'd recommend? I'll tell you, it does not end well, even when I was only joking. I guess his humor can only stretch so far some days:)
--Baker
Love this Baker, I love the secret language Rick and I share. References that appear 'innocent' to anybody else but have a meaning only we know. Also body language, the eyebrows, the look, tap on the shoulder etc.
ReplyDeleteHugs
Roz
Roz,
DeleteI love that it's just between us too. That he can grab my attention and help me refocus by his words, look or touch. It's pretty powerful stuff.
--Baker