Balancing Act

It's no news, to anyone who reads here frequently, that Hoss and I busy folks.  We have several children and many moving parts in our day due to the logistics of a raising a large family as well as Hoss working a highly demanding job.  We make DD work partly because we badly want it in our lives and it helps our marriage run smoother, we are happier since adding it, and feel it overall benefits us during this season of our lives.

One of the main questions we get from our nosy neighbors awesome fellow bloggers or sweet readers is how do we possibly make this work?

Well, to answer that would be difficult simply because each day is so incredibly different, but I can say that if you want something badly enough, you will go to great lengths to make it happen.  So let me try to give you all an idea on how we make it work without being too nutso by sharing too much personal info.

Do the kids know?  I mean be realistic, Baker.  The kids have to know, right?

Nope!  Did your kids know about your sex life?  Um, I'd surely hope not.  Do ours know.  Nope!  So can you hide spankings from the kids?  Yup!!!

How do you hide the sound?

Hello!  I know lots of you have Alexis in your homes and she can really get her groove on with some 80s music with a beat.  Hoss loves a good beat.  What HOH doesn't? Also none of our kids are morning people, so early morning works well.  Late nights also can be equally used even with teens still awake, but in a different part if the house if the music is loud.  And Hoss always listens to his music loudly, so no news there.

Don't you cry or yell during a spanking?

I'm not a crier by nature, but I do make some noise.  I've eaten enough pillow fluff the last few years to stuff a Billy goat full, if you know what I mean.

Do the kids see Hoss as being in charge?

Most definitely unless I'm not setting a good example.  Which, um, happens too frequently to count never ever happens.  😉 Actually they do know I defer to him, but I'm here most often and there's tons of decisions made every day, so most of those are mine to make.  Hoss doesn't want or need to be  bothered with what they had for breakfast as long as they ate.  Those types of things.

Do you call him sir?

Where we live using sir or ma'am is not necessarily unheard of, but I don't call him sir in front of them unless I'm being snarky.  Same with using, "Aye,Aye Captain," or "Whatever you say, your royal Highness!". What?  You guys didn't think I just have a sense of humor here, right?  Nope, I'm pretty sassy as a general rule of thumb.🤣

How does Hoss let you know you're in trouble without letting on to the kids what's going on?

There's a few ways that work.  One, is simply suggesting I need break.  He might say, "Sweetheart, you look tired.  Why don't you go down stairs for a bit".

(Stop laughing those of you who know me!  I know you guys know I run on various statements on my particular exhaustion level for any given day.  That's just Baker talk for I never sleep!  So move along people,nothing more to see here!) .  Well, I do sleep, but it's on an as needed basis and well, enough said.

Or he'll give me a look and when our eyes meet I know I've stepped too far.

My favorite response so far is Cat's horrible lovely suggestion of him scratching his palm.  Think itchy palm syndrome.   Thanks, Cat for that one, I owe you one, my friend!  Big-time!

So those are some interesting questions we've got over the last two years.  Probably more than some of you cared to know.😆.   I'd love to hear more suggestions from the rest of you out there practicing ttwd with kids, or family members etc living with you.  If no one else is at home, but the two of you, than feel free comment as you see fit.

Have a great week!
--Baker