Obey
I am here to tell you folks, obedience is a nice long word. Obedient is only slightly smaller. But they both mean one must obey. Why do I struggle with that little word, sometimes? I sure would love to know.
This morning (Wednesday) as Hoss was leaving for work he gave me a sweet, warm bear hug. I love his hugs. As I turned to walk away he gave me two soft swats on my nightgown clad bottom. "Obey," was all he said before releasing me. Who else gets those little flutters in their tummy when their man says to, "Obey?" I smiled to myself, promising myself that I would do just that. To Hoss I mumbled an, "Okay," or a "Yes," I truly do not remember. I was too caught up in my own mind about that little word.
Later this morning Hoss and I were texting back and forth about a meal I was preparing for a friend of his from work. I was going on and on about what my ideas were and his reply...Pick three things. That's all that is needed. He reminded me that I had been having a lot of foggy brain this week and I was setting myself up for failure. His little pats on my bottom and telling me to obey came screaming back to my head. Obey. Such a tough tough word.
He was right of course. Be careful and gentle with myself. It also means I obey him. But I wrestle with this. I want to. I desire to. My human nature is to just fight against him. There isn't a reason those feelings pop out. He is seriously trying to make life easier for me. Just trying to work through those feelings. Submit. Obey. That's what I need to do. Just pray I can do it. Does anyone else struggle like this? Can I be the only one?--Baker
Hi Baker, you are not the only one. I used to struggle with this too. Perhaps at least partly because relationship dynamic aside we are strong, independent women.
ReplyDeleteAs you said, Hoss was looking out for you and putting your best interests first. He's a real keepper :)
Hugs
Roz
Roz, He is definitely a keeper! I agree. I am extremely independent and I find that can sometimes be to my disadvantage in my relationship with Hoss. There are times I wish my submissive side would just kick in sooner!
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no no you're not the only one Baker. In a past relationship my partner was big (very big) on obedience. I riled against it constantly. Fortunately Sir Steve has a much softer approach to the whole thing.... but I know when he gives me an order (an obey order) that it is for my own good... nothing silly .... practical. Like yesterday I really over did it.. and when he got home from work I was stretched out on the sofa almost in tears....... Today he told me 'you will have a quiet day - and you WILL rest this afternoon' And despite having to run messages all morning - I WILL rest this afternoon and give my body a break... cause he knows and I know if I don't pace myself I'm not gonna survive this move :)
ReplyDeleteI love that your Sir Steve takes care of you like that. He is definitely looking out for your best interests. I know that we all want to obey, but in theory, it is much harder than it looks. I pray a lot when I am struggling with submission and obeying. I need the extra strength some days to motivate myself to do the right thing.
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Obey, no talking back, my FLR marriage. I have a little child that likes to come out, mostly at the wrong time. My wife truly understands, and at first it was a trip to the bedroom for the 'Talk', now it happens then and there. I don't care who is present I plead with 'Mommy' not here. I have to call her Mommy and Mommy decides where and when. Having your bottom bared, over her lap, feeling the sting of the bath brush, doing the spanking dance afterwards, facing the wall, yes I'm crying. My wife enjoys that, plus her girlfriends. The worse spanking would be the one my mother-in-law gave at her home. I was taken to the bedroom, but I had kicked off my pants, underpants from the spanking. When she was done, told to finish undressing and was taken to the front room, her hairbrush being applied along the way. My wife looked, smile, very nice Mother she said. I faced the wall. When we went home I was given a robe to wear, squirming in the front seat, saying nothing. I finally said is Mommy going to give me a spanking when we get home. She smiled and said yes, my naughty little boy is going to be given a spanking, put on his jammies and going to bed early. Yes mommie I said, sorry Mommy. Oh your going to be a very sorry naughty little boy. Oh she said in the morning, I will give you a bath, and you will be in your jammies all day, it is Saturday and best be a good little boy. Jack
ReplyDeleteHi, Jack, I would definitely agree with you. Obedience is so important.
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I'm just lucky to be married to a woman who understands me and must be in charge. Jack
DeleteYou are a lucky woman to have this struggle.
ReplyDeleteThank you, PK, I agree.
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Baker, you sure wouldn't be the only one. Hoss has your good interests at heart. Both him and friends are looking out for you. I believe you get told to Stop and smell the roses by someone. LOL! Just do it!
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DeleteHe does have my best interest at heart. I would have to agree that I definitely should stop and smell those roses!
--Baker
I love how Hoss is putting you first. That’s what a good partner does. Using the dynamic in order to put the others needs is love!
ReplyDeleteHi, Minielle,
DeleteAwe, you are so correct! He does put me first and I love it!
--Baker