Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Balancing Act

It's no news, to anyone who reads here frequently, that Hoss and I busy folks.  We have several children and many moving parts in our day due to the logistics of a raising a large family as well as Hoss working a highly demanding job.  We make DD work partly because we badly want it in our lives and it helps our marriage run smoother, we are happier since adding it, and feel it overall benefits us during this season of our lives.

One of the main questions we get from our nosy neighbors awesome fellow bloggers or sweet readers is how do we possibly make this work?
Well, to answer that would be difficult simply because each day is so incredibly different, but I can say that if you want something badly enough, you will go to great lengths to make it happen.  So let me try to give you all an idea on how we make it work without being too nutso by sharing too much personal info.

Do the kids know?  I mean be realistic, Baker.  The kids have to know, right?

Nope!  Did your kids know about your sex life?  Um, I'd surely hope not.  Do ours know.  Nope!  So can you hide spankings from the kids?  Yup!!!
How do you hide the sound?

Hello!  I know lots of you have Alexis in your homes and she can really get her groove on with some 80s music with a beat.  Hoss loves a good beat.  What HOH doesn't? Also none of our kids are morning people, so early morning works well.  Late nights also can be equally used even with teens still awake, but in a different part if the house if the music is loud.  And Hoss always listens to his music loudly, so no news there.
Don't you cry or yell during a spanking?

I'm not a crier by nature, but I do make some noise.  I've eaten enough pillow fluff the last few years to stuff a Billy goat full, if you know what I mean.

Do the kids see Hoss as being in charge?

Most definitely unless I'm not setting a good example.  Which, um, happens too frequently to count never ever happens.  😉 Actually they do know I defer to him, but I'm here most often and there's tons of decisions made every day, so most of those are mine to make.  Hoss doesn't want or need to be  bothered with what they had for breakfast as long as they ate.  Those types of things.
Do you call him sir?

Where we live using sir or ma'am is not necessarily unheard of, but I don't call him sir in front of them unless I'm being snarky.  Same with using, "Aye,Aye Captain," or "Whatever you say, your royal Highness!". What?  You guys didn't think I just have a sense of humor here, right?  Nope, I'm pretty sassy as a general rule of thumb.🤣

How does Hoss let you know you're in trouble without letting on to the kids what's going on?

There's a few ways that work.  One, is simply suggesting I need break.  He might say, "Sweetheart, you look tired.  Why don't you go down stairs for a bit".

(Stop laughing those of you who know me!  I know you guys know I run on various statements on my particular exhaustion level for any given day.  That's just Baker talk for I never sleep!  So move along people,nothing more to see here!) .  Well, I do sleep, but it's on an as needed basis and well, enough said.
Or he'll give me a look and when our eyes meet I know I've stepped too far.
My favorite response so far is Cat's horrible lovely suggestion of him scratching his palm.  Think itchy palm syndrome.   Thanks, Cat for that one, I owe you one, my friend!  Big-time!
So those are some interesting questions we've got over the last two years.  Probably more than some of you cared to know.😆.   I'd love to hear more suggestions from the rest of you out there practicing ttwd with kids, or family members etc living with you.  If no one else is at home, but the two of you, than feel free comment as you see fit.

Have a great week!
--Baker


14 comments:

  1. sounds like you got the bases covered :) We only have one lil one around -- and she is usually fast asleep the minute her light goes out at 7:30ish.... and nothing wakes her !!!! but I have swallowed my share of pillow fluff over the last 2 years...

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    1. Good to hear you understand the complexity too! It's always good to know and learn how others make this work for them too.

      --Baker

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  2. LOL "Most definitely unless I'm not setting a good example. (Which, um, happens too frequently to count) never ever happens." I couldn't get the strike through to show in the comment. I loved this. I loved a lot of this. Thank you for sharing. :) As you know, I'm not a sleeper either. lol Scratching the palm. EEK!!! Now I'm going to have to tell the Duke because I'm required to share any "good" ideas with him. Augh. lol Thanks... or should I say thanks to Cat? :)
    With parents moved in, and little one in the house, I too am well associated with pillow fluff, or goose feathers in our case. lol
    Hugs, EsMay

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    1. Awwww, EsMay,
      What a sweet comment. Thank you so much! So happy you enjoyed it.
      --Baker

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  3. Great diet there Baker of pillow fluff. LOL! IPS seems to be a signal for a lot of us I think. Love the way Hoss suggests you go down stairs for a rest.
    Good thing your kidlets haven't caught onto any of these little hints.
    Loved reading this and look forward to more posts from you this year.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. Ugh, Lindy, really...pillow fluff is not the best diet, but apparently it makes an appearance more often than I choose to admit. IPS is a true thing. Not a good thing, but a true thing.

      Hoss needs to get that looked at, me thinks!
      --Baker

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  4. Hi Baker,

    I so love this post. Juggljng ttwd with kids in the house is an issue faced by many and I'm sure this post will give some ideas to others. LoL at eating pillow fluff, I think many of us have shared this diet lol. Love the signals between you and Hoss lol.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Awww, you've enjoyed the pillow fluff diet as well. I'm so happy people are totally understanding about that diet and not at all critical. LOL!

      Thanks, for being such a supportive friend!
      --Baker

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  5. You are both amazing. I know I have said that before, but now I will say it again. If you two can make it work, then the rest of us ought never to complain. Never thought about loud music before!!

    Hugs From Ella

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    1. Miss Ella,
      Awww, that's so sweet of you to say. I do appreciate your encouragement.

      Hoss loves loud music and of course so do quite a few of the kiddos. I do not, but when the music is loud in our room, I at least know the kids do not think twice about what in the world we're doing. Which is the whole point anyway...to keep them in the dark about momma getting her bum reddened. :}
      --Baker

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  6. I don't know how you do everything you do but I know, from experience, that DD works even or especially when we are busy in our daily lives. You have a great sense of humor and you are an amazing woman. Thanks for a great post.

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    1. Blondie,
      I know you know many tricks of the trade too! I appreciate your sweet words. They are definitely an encouragement to us to keep going. It is hard to live this lifestyle and keep things quiet, but Hoss always says, "If you want something badly enough you'll find time to make it happen." It seems to be working for us!
      --Baker

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  7. I don't know how you and other ttwd folks, like you, with kidlets and the busy lives that go with all that, do it, Baker. I like to think ttwd might have made our often tense and chaotic child rearing lives easier but realistically, I don't think we could have made it fly ... so kudos to you & Hoss, doing whatever it takes! ... and all with a sense of humour :>)) ... nj

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    1. NJ,
      I appreciate your sentiment. I don't know how we do it some days except we do. When Hoss says that we can make it happen if we want it badly enough, I believe him. I know it's a mutual thing. I appreciate your kind words of encouragement though. Made me smile! And the sense of humor is the bonus!
      --Baker

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