Monday, May 27, 2019


Well, things are a changin'.  At least around here.  We are always a family on the go with different activities going on and such, but this new change is rather quick and unexpected.  Hoss and I have always been open to doing what we feel called to do by God, but this new change has been an interesting one, to say the least.  

A few weeks ago we received a call from a young woman asking for some help.  We took that situation head on and our home is brimming now with a few extra people.  What a blessing...what an opportunity....what a bit of craziness....what else can we say?  
I have shared with a few of our blog friends in emails or what have you, that we were having these changes.  Many have prayed for us.  Some have worried for us.  All have been really encouraging and willing to show such love and compassion and patience with us.  I am again reminded at how special this community can be.  

I have had many of these friends encourage us to continue to find time for ourselves, for DD, for making memories.  We are trying.  It is harder now with a teenager in the room over from us, who wondered what that tapping noise was....(loopy is apparently NOT as quiet as we think, but thankfully I was!)  Next time, 80s music with a steady beat in the background. 
So new schedules to work out for when we can keep our dynamic protected and safe.  Thankfully, Hoss is a wonderful husband, father and friend.  He is working hard to keep us all on track.  Gentle reminders.  Quiet words.  Giving me a chance to blog today, alone.  I can not say how much our hearts swell with pure love at how well our children are coping.  How well they are helping.  Yes, they are not perfect.  There are disagreements and moments of frustration, but overall things are going smoothly.  God is good.  DD is our touch point and I consider myself to be one blessed lady.
Hope everything is going well with everyone else.  I may or may not be here for a few weeks as I have alot on my plate, but know I am thinking of everyone and praying, "it's all good!"  Sending lots of hugs and thank yous for all your kind encouraging words!


Sunday, May 12, 2019

Happy Mother's Day

To all of you wonderful ladies out there!  Hoss and I like to wish you all a beautiful and Happy Mother's Day with lots of love from us!  It's hard being a mom through all of the stages, but remember, you got this girl! 

 Much love,
--Hoss and Baker

Wednesday, May 8, 2019

A Little Bit of Cleansing

Well, look at me.  Blogging again already.  What has got into the air lately around here?  Aside from the wonderful seasonal allergies that is....  

Hoss and I are getting along quite fine and we are slowing down for a few weeks before things pick up with all of the kids' summer activities.  There has been some stress around here.  I know, I know, hard to believe, right?  Hoss has been doing his best part to keep me on the straight and narrow.  Well, as best as he possibly can, as I do not do well under a ton of stress.  Okay, you got me.  I tend to totally freak out when things become overwhelming.  The sad part is the kids and Hoss tend to get and hear most of that stress as is pours out of my mouth at them.  
I've been praying about how to stop this behavior and we have tried some options including me taking a time out when I get frustrated, lots of deep breathing and there have been spankings when Hoss hears me truly get out of control.  It's not something I am at all proud of, but sometimes I let the stress build up and bad things happen.  
So the other day I asked for a cleansing spanking, a reset of sorts.  It was an idea of sorts that I felt would help.  Basically the idea was to assign an implement to each child and the number of swats would be the child's age.  Hoss would then spank using that implement and I focused on how my relationship with that particular child could be helped or improved.  

Now, I'm not saying this was an easy spanking by any means.  It was not easy to take at all. Hoss' favorites came out to discipline and I had a few choices as well.  Loopy was last as it was the worst and Hoss' belt was the first as I was given the option to organize them from the one I disliked the least to the worst.  

This spanking left a good impression on my backside, but it impacted my heart far more.  I was able to forgive myself and work towards better options for handling my stress.  It made me feel cleansed.  That made be hard for others to understand, but it set things to right again.  I appreciated that he heard my need to rid myself of the guilt and move on.  To use spanking to heal my heart.   I have also asked a few kids for forgiveness and asked them to help remind me when I sound too harsh.  They had no idea why I had requested it, but kids are gracious and forgive easily.  I am grateful for that.  
I think some might find this harsh, but remember this is something I came up with as I knew it would be similar to a reset and would basically reset my mind/heart.  It did just that and I am really feeling far more content.  By forgiving myself and moving past that I can be the mom and wife that I want to be.  I also like knowing that I get another chance each day to improve me.

Thanks for listening!


Tuesday, April 30, 2019

Indirect and a Little Confusing

Here I sit.  Quietly.  The house is quiet too.  Hoss took the kids...all the kids, out for the evening.  Shopping.  Well, it's literally been months since I have had an evening alone.  To tell the truth I truly have no idea when the last time this event actually occurred when I was not sick.  

So, right before he left I was telling my sweet man that I had not blogged in almost two months.  Maybe, just maybe, tonight I would try to write something.  Anything.  It would not be profound or all together interesting.  Everyone knows we are busy raising a large family, incorporating DD into our daily lives, and just basically doing the very best we can.  Those blogging friends who have inquired know that life sucked us up in a hole lately.  That if I send an email, I am doing well.  No true worries here, just so busy.  Life happening so quickly.  I want to spend and cherish these moments and yet they seem to flirt by me and are lost into the next thing of my day.  
As I was writing this I did think of a few thoughts and things that have happened that I do want to share...things I have appreciated or have had deep gratitude towards.

I did want to say that Hoss and I recently celebrated our anniversary.  The marriage one and the DD one go hand in hand.  Three years of DD has literally changed our lives.  How we view one another.  How we process things.  How we "do" life.   He is most definitely the love of my life, the first person I see in the morning and the last one I lay eyes on at night.  He said recently that I, yes I, "complete him."  I am more in love each day with my sweet, giving man.  Thank you, Hoss for so many rich years growing older together.
I am feeling slightly melancholy tonight, can you tell?  We have learned and gained so much in the last few years, that I wish, I so wish, we had started this sooner.  It would have saved us so much grief and heartache, but maybe it was just meant to be that way.  To be honest, I'm okay with that.
I hope everyone is doing well.  I did try to get around to as many blogs as I could tonight and read.  To soak up on all of your knowledge, words of wisdom and kindness, encouragement to those around you.  I think it's simply beautiful how this community is here encouraging one another.  Loving on one another.  Being there for one another.  Thank you to the ladies who have cared.  Who have reached out.  Who have encouraged us from the very beginning and through the past three years.  We have made priceless friendships.  Each one unique and giving in it's own way.  When I began blogging one of my main reasons was to make friends, to have friendships.  I needed support to understand and learn from others.  Many, many of you have been there for us.  Thank you.  Each and everyone that has written a comment, dropped an email, even just one.  I'm thankful.  I have gleaned so much from each of you. 
I feel like naming each kindness shown, but that would take forever and a day and no one would want to read all of that mushy stuff anyway.  I just want to say thank you.  Whether you read here and have never commented, stopped by and always say, "Hi," often, or to those who have become some of my best friends I could ever ask for.  You are appreciated, you are loved and you are treasured by me.
Now, taking off the melancholy.  Hope to be around more that school is getting close to being done.  I do have many ideas and thoughts to share.  Just hang in there, folks, I'm trying to get back here.  Just working on the when.


Wednesday, March 6, 2019

Update on Lindy Lou

Our sweet Lindy has not been around much lately.  Her aches and pains in her wrist and hand have been unbearable.  Writing or typing has been no fun.  But have no fear!  Lindy is feeling better.  She had surgery yesterday morning and all went well.  Our Lindy Lou is on the road to recovery.  
Join with me to send our favorite down under blogger a get well soon!  Lindy gave me the go ahead to let everyone else know that she is doing better, surgery is complete and it will be at least another six to eight weeks before she can catch up with us all here.  So send her some love, people!
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Wednesday, February 6, 2019


This will be a quick post as I'm really just going to ask a few questions and let you all do the work!  I do like the idea of being lazy in a post, but not on this particular issue.
Hoss asked me this morning what to do about DD.  Now, this is an odd question to come out of my sweet man's mouth, but the dilemma is real and one we've always struggled with during our DD lifestyle.  So I'm going to propose the question to all of you and see what insight we may glean from your comments.
Due to my asthma, there are often times when I become sick easier than the average person and my colds/symptoms/asthma flare-ups will result in me being sick far longer than the average person.  The problem is huge when it comes to the spanking issue as when I cannot breathe it's unfair for Hoss to spank.  Does that mean my mouth knows when to stop or that I do not struggle in other areas?  Yes!  Just kidding, because I would not have written this post if I was a complete angel when I am sick, would I? 
So the basic premise for this post is that we are looking for other alternatives that Hoss can use that would help us when he cannot spank.

So start typing, folks, Hoss we really want to know what are some other corrections out there that can be "implemented" without spanking that have worked for you!

Thanks, ahead of time (I think), I know Hoss will definitely appreciate it!

Sunday, February 3, 2019


I often ponder my purpose in Blogland.  I have asked myself these questions (and probably many more) over the last few months as I try to sort out my feelings about blogging and Blogland in general.  I know this is more of a reflective, internal evaluation of myself, but I also feel other bloggers and maybe readers will be able to view this and consider some of the questions for themselves. 
Come on, follow me down the rabbit hole or labyrinth, whichever you prefer to call it.  Right now, I'm calling it a bit of a maze my brain feels the need to travel down.

I guess the main question is rooted in the following. 
Why come here and blog?  Isn't this whole spanking thing suppose to be private and personal?  I mean this lifestyle is something most of us hide from everyone close to us in our real lives.  Why share it with strangers or anyone for that matter? 
I'm trying to figure this out and answer it.  It's maybe not so much the why as it what purpose do I feel writing about our lifestyle meets.  I originally came to make friends.  Check that box!  I've done that aplenty.  Even been able to make me a few "not friends" in the process.  I've made my way through and found those whose lives are, in some cases, quite a bit like ours and I've also found friends who are so vastly different but so accepting.   Some are older, a few are younger or close to my age.  All are kind, generous people, who, like Hoss and I, are on a journey to nurture our marriage in an unconventional way.  Those are the friends I've kept close.  I learn a lot from each dynamic, each perspective, but I no longer need blogging to make friends. There's always room for more friends, but it's not my sole purpose for blogging any longer.  Question is... do I need it for other reasons?

Those thoughts lead me to the next questions.

Is there a point to sharing our story?  In other words, does blogging serve a purpose in our lives?  Are we educating anyone around us or is it simply a journal?  A log of our journey?  
Mostly, I think there is a point.  It's just sometimes I struggle to find what others would find so interesting.  I've spoken to other bloggers and I believe that many wrestle with the idea that what they have to say is important.  I wonder if sometimes that is why I've stayed out of the picture for so long.  It's easier not to come back, even if I want to.  Because then I feel the responsibility to blog often and blog well.  I also love to entertain while I write.  I do not want to bore anyone.  I just want to show that even at this busy stage in our lives that we, too, can have a DD lifestyle.  That it isn't relegated to those couples without children or those whose children are grown.  I believe we all want to show that Blogland is a place of diversity.  That all are welcome regardless of what stage of life they are in.  That each has a place or a purpose.  We are all educating others through using our lives as an example to many.  We show there is no right or wrong way to live this lifestyle.
Do others out there actually learn anything from us? least I hope so.  I'm just never sure.  I mean, seriously, folks.  I know each of us wants to make an impact here.  Whether the blog is for journaling or just to connect with others or to process their journey.  I think all of us want to have an impact.  I'm just not always certain if the impact is the one I want to make.  I know I can be very silly and perhaps even witty at times, but I do take our lifestyle very seriously.  If I don't, I know my sweet man will remind me too!
Maybe a further idea or question would follow along these particular lines:

Does this journey make sense to anyone besides Hoss or me?  Do we have a particular place in the land that represents a certain type of people?  Maybe...but I think everyone is welcome.
I like to think our journey is different than others in Blogland.  We have many children, I stay at home, my husband works more than most, we are busy outside of just those factors.  I think it's our journey.  I feel the blog reflects that, but does it make sense to others.  I often wonder if anyone else gets anything out of what I post.  Some days it does not make sense even to us why we try so hard to make this work, except the benefits, are so great.  I mean the closeness, the beauty of it all, the intense love we feel for one another.  We just pray we are using the blog that in a way that shows others all sides of the story.  That we are not sugar coating that it can be rough, but that it is rewarding as well.

I guess to go along with an earlier question/concept about blogging...
Does it help having friends in Blogland and if so what purpose do they serve?

I have very good friends here in Blogland.  People I trust.  I could be just as happy just chatting with them without showing up and writing here.  I wanted to actually blog to make friends.  I needed the support.  I have that now, but somehow blogging still feels important.  That there are others out there that may want to be encouraged, that are situations similar to us.  Raising children.  Trying to remain deeply committed to one another.  Enriching our marriage.  But the friendships, folks, if you do not have a friend from this community I can not emphasize the value that person can bring.  The wisdom.  The insight.  The encouragement.  The honesty.  The ability to commiserate when one is facing or has just faced the barn burner of their lives....That is simply priceless.

So, I guess all I've done is simply spilled my guts out for all of you to view.  What is that saying, the good, the bad and the ugly?  Well, today, I kind of shared all of that with all of you.  I think a big part of me just wants our journey is something that someone else can see that this can be done.  That we're not the only ones going through this process with kids and work and all the stuff that makes our days pass by.  That maybe we are having an impact, no matter how small, on the world around us.  I guess, that's probably what everyone else desires too.  That they have come here, to this place, and made a difference.