At the beginning of March I asked my readers what kind of questions they may have for Hoss and me. We are finally back in town, settled back in, and finally (I Feel) back to a semi-normal schedule/routine of life. So I am tackling Morningstar's Question first and hopefully I will get to PK and Roz's questions as well this week. Please bear with me as March has been extremely busy and getting time to post has been significantly hard.
So Morningstar's question is listed below:
I have a couple of questions for you :) (forgive me if you have already answered it a million times - I'm pleading moving brain - can't remember anything!!)
How did you both decide to do TTWD - specifically TH? AND in what ways has it improved your relationship/marriage? Is it possible that your relationship would have improved regardless of TH - just a natural evolving ???
Let's get comfortable, shall we? It's a bit of a story. I had no idea TTWD was even a thing until I read fanfiction. I know, crazy, right? I mean what rock had we been hiding under. I was shocked when in the story I was reading the man turned his wife over his knee for a little discipline. It just felt so right to me. Like a novel concept that I was some how missing. Was this how marriage should look? It took months for me to begin discussing it with Hoss. I had to mull that concept around for quite a bit. I knew it had been taught in our church that a man was head of the home, but in reality our home was not that way. I was so relieved that Hoss didn't think I was insane for wanting to change the dynamic to him in charge AND add spanking into our lives. We did a bit of sexy spanking at first and sometime around (I'm not for certain) our anniversary a few months later I'd asked him to discipline me for things I was struggling with at the time. The rest shall we say is history.
So I will be honest, I think we were at a point in our relationship we had grown apart to some degree. I wouldn't say our marriage was falling apart as much as we were struggling to find time or ways to connect with such a busy household. I was running the show and hating it. Our communication with one another was broken down. So to say that TTWD definitely was and still is a tool we use in our marriage to stay balanced, is an understatement.
Hoss definitely feels best when he in the HOH mode. I am calmer and happier as well when I feel him in charge. I do like to challenged things. I would have thought after all these years I would no longer feel the need to challenge things, but I do. I really think if we had began our marriage with TTWD we would have had less challenges. Things always go smoother when I back up and obey or submit. The peace in our home is almost something I can reach out and touch at that point.
Would we have become closer had we not done TTWD? Hmmm....I believe probably not until all the kids had grown up and left. We found something that works 14 years into our marriage. It definitely is a tool we use regularly. It suits us so to speak. Even if Bertha and Hoss' other friends (implements) are a little too talkative some days.
I hope that answers Morningstar's question. If I confused anyone feel free to ask for clarification. Communication is key!
That wasn't near as long as I thought. Refill that cup of whatever you're drinking and go visit some of our friends in blogland. And comment, it makes our day when someone says hi!