Monday, January 24, 2022

Let's Recap, Shall We?


So, the other day, I was bemoaning in my latest post that I was feeling like we were in a bit of a desert simply because there were no spankings to be had.  In our home, we have a definite hard and fast rule.  I am not allowed to post anything without Hoss' permission when it comes to this blog.  It's for our own safety.  Always put an extra set an eyes on what I write before I post it.  Occasionally, that comes back to bite me in the butt.


Let's recap, shall we?

My latest post had to do with feeling like I was definitely lacking in the spanking arena.  Hoss and I had both been sick and even though we were sick, I was craving a reset.  Well, in order to share with you all my dilemma, I had to share the post with Hoss first.  

Let's recap his reaction, shall we?

He began to read in earnest as he almost always does.  My man is very sweet and supportive of this blog.  He also wants to make sure we do our best to present DD in a way that helps or teaches others.  We also want to be authentic.  Show our readers the real us as best as we can, without necessarily oversharing.  So, Hoss picks up my laptop and is reading away.  When he sets it down he chuckles.  I look up from my side of the bed.  "What's up?  Did you like it?"  He grins.  "Oh, we will definitely be taking care of that."  I smiled and we left it at that.  We were both worn out.  Kids were still up.  It was not going to happen right then, and probably not even that night and we both knew it.

Let's recap when it did happen, shall we?

The next morning, as Hoss was getting dressed for work, he beckoned me to him.  It was early, my brain was not in first gear yet, so of course I went to him.  "Let's take care of that post," he said sweetly.  "Huh, what??? Now?" Of course now.  That makes perfect sense, right?  I shook my head and he gestured to the bed.  

Let's recap the spanking, shall we?

I leaned over the bed, praying.  Yes, praying because I needed this.  Praying because I didn't expect this right now.  Praying because I really really want the release from this reset.  Hoss begins swatting with his right hand.   I am clinching my eyes and breathing through each swat.  Hard and steady swats.  A few dozen swats and we are done.  He pulls me up in a hug and a kiss.  "All better?" he asks.  I smile.  Of course, I'm all better!  It's what I needed.  I know what keeps me even keel.  Hoss smiled back.  I love that smile of his.  "All better?" he asks.  "Yup," came my reply.  We share a hug.

Let's recap why this works, shall we?

Because my husband knows me.  Sometimes I need to ask for it and I don't.  Sometimes I ask for it and he cannot deliver immediately, but he still takes care of me as soon as he can.  We know what works for us.  This works for us.  From the acknowledgement that I was in need to the delivery to the sweet touches afterward.  This is a dance that we choose to move to.  And it serves us well.

--Baker





8 comments:

  1. Aww Baker, I'm so glad you got the reset you needed, a spanking and a hug :)

    Good on you for writing the post knowing Hoss would read it. I'm glad Hoss takes an interest in the blog. Rick also used to read all my posts and the comments. The blog turned out to be a great tool in our relationship.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thanks, Roz, I am thankful for the reset and the fact that he holds interest in what I write. It is very sweet. I'm glad Rick did the same for you. Now, if we can just get him to give you a reset a bit more often, lol!
      --Baker

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  2. Baker - First let me say I'm glad Hoss 'listened' to your needs and satisfied them ... to me that's what builds a good relationship.

    I am (in case you hadn't figured this out yet) a little bit different, being a masochist, the need for pain is a bit like the need for sex.... it isn't tied to any behaviours but more a need to satisfy an urge. Day to day we have a 'normal' relationship where I do all the household things like cooking and cleaning and laundry and of course child care. BUT there comes a time when my need for pain ... for a kinky connection to Sir Steve .... is almost overwhelming. I will feel neglected and irritable and totally out of sorts. Add to that the feeling I can't ask for pain and look out! the situation can escalate. It's complicated to explain - but it's a bit like sex.... let's see if I can explain... if I'm horny and Sir Steve isn't - even if we have sex to satisfy my need - it's not the same as if we are both horny. If my Sadist (Sir Steve) isn't craving kink - then it's just not the same - there are no sparks - no mutual satisfaction.

    Ohhhhhhh to finally be in our new home - with our BIG bedroom upstairs away from the lil one - lots of room - and Sir Steve's promise of many many pain sessions. :)

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    1. Morningstar, I believe you explained it very well. I understand those needs and desires. For me it is very much about the endorphins released and that cleansing feeling I get that helps me to feel centered once that need is met. Discipline and submission and spanking and all of it just goes hand in hand for us. But I am also with you, so so hard for ask for it.
      --Baker

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  3. His desire to read your post before they go up is lovely. Nick used to read mine, then stopped and now I think he does again - but I don't really say anything so it doesn't matter. I love that he wants to know what you're think/writing. It's strange how for some of us writing is so much better/easier than talking face to face. Anyway, I'm glad you wrote, he read and he took care of things.

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    1. PK, you hit the nail on the head. For me it is very much about saying it on paper. It just flows easier. Sometimes when I try to say what I want it gets all muddled up and it doesn't matter what I'm trying to say it comes out sounding so weird and off. I am thankful he took care of the need too. Hugs!
      --Baker

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  4. Baker - I know I posted a comment yesterday......... am wondering if it got lost in cyber space OR if it upset you....... let me know if I upset the apple cart ok???

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    1. Good Morning, Morningstar, we are totally okay. I was not feeling well yesterday and by the time I felt well enough to post the kids either had the laptop or I was just too out of it to respond appropriately. Sometimes my brain recovery from the stroke is amazing and other times I am at a loss for words on how slow it can be. Thanks for double checking. Your concern spurred me on to make sure I got the comments up. Sorry to worry you.
      --Baker

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