Wednesday, April 5, 2017

YES! I Have Answers!

Yes, I am finally answering your questions!

Well, you folks totally outdid yourselves with your questions.  I am excited to dig deep and answer all that I can.  It has taken me quite some time to answer all of these, so hopefully you will enjoy my answers to these thought provoking questions.

Let's start with Roz and her two questions.

Question 1: What is the biggest change you have noticed in both Hoss and yourself since embracing ttwd?

I know that Hoss has told me several times I never, ever let him have a voice before we began ttwd and now he knows when he speaks, I listen.  (Well as least the majority of the time I do.  He would definitely say I've improved.)  I would agree with his statement.  I'd say on my end that I am less controlling and more willing to open up to him and let him help me.

Question 2: Who brought ttwd to the table, you or Hoss?

I did.  He was against it at first, but was willing to try if it would help our marriage.   DD helped us to reconnect on so many levels and brought us much closer together over the past 11 months.

Now, onto sweet Abby's questions.

Question 1: You find a dirty old lamp, shine it up and a genie appears to grant you wishes...2 for you and 1 for hubby...what are they?

Wow, um, not sure how I would answer that.  Honestly as I can, I guess.  Okay, Hoss went first on this one.  He said he'd ask for a home large enough for everyone to have their own room (children would never have to share) and acreage with a pond, wooded area, etc.  I'd say mine would be to fulfill my dream of writing a novel someday and for my cousin (who died recently) to be alive and home with her husband, children and family right now.  Sorry, but that's where I'm at right now on that.  When I told Hoss the third answer he kissed me and said I have a kind heart.  To be honest, it's more selfish, wanting to remove a great deal of pain we are going through right now.

Question 2: How did you and hubby meet?

We met on a blind date.  My best friend, also a co-worker at the time, and her husband set us up.  He knew Hoss from work and approached him knowing we had similar interests.  After the first date we began talking daily and had a second date within the week.  I was captivated by his presence and loved being with him every second I could.

From my bestie, Seetheway.

Question: What's your favorite thing about being submissive?

I love being his.  I love when he holds me and tenderly rubs my back.  When he tells me how proud he is of me.  Or when he is being very dominating (which is something he sometimes struggles with as he wants to be fair) and that makes me feel priceless.  Those things melt me and make me want to please him more.

From Miss Cat.

Question: I'm asking everyone the same question that was asked of me several years ago...What four people (and their spouse/partner), living or dead, would you invite for an evening of drinks and dinner?

Let's see.  I would definitely want my grandparents from my mom's side.  Still breaks my heart that they are gone.  Harriet Tubman, because she showed such courage during a difficult time.  Cassie and Tom (I know they are fictional, but really who wouldn't want to have them over for dinner?) Last one, um, such a hard choice between a few different people.  I think maybe my sweet friend, Bea, and her hubby, would be fun to round off the group.  By the way, no drinks, but dinner and dessert.  I'll take some steak, twice baked potatoes, a side salad with honey mustard and for dessert a lovely piece of red velvet cake for me, please and thank you!

These are two questions from Sweet Ella:

Question 1: What is one thing about yourself that you really dislike? 

Ella, it would be hard to choose just one.  So I will not confine myself to the rule of one.  I'd say my lack of organization or maybe, my quick temper would be the ones I struggle with the most.  The ones I want to change the most.  These areas I had fairly under control prior to marriage and having a ton of kids.  Now, they are the areas that upset and embarrass me the most about myself.

Question 2: Do you ever hope that ttwd will be able to help you conquer it?

Hoss has already been helping me to work on both of these issues.  I know the organization (or lack thereof) is the one he seems to target the most.  He really feels like it effects our days the most and I would so agree.  My temper is one that he is also helping me to curb, but that is harder as it is not as easy to predict what may send me over the deep end.

Questions from down under with Ms. Lindy:

Question #1: My question for you even though you are reasonably new to TTWD have you noticed any changes its made yet? 

We are most definitely closer.  We fuss at each other some, but not near as often.  We find that our "exercise" time has increased greatly.  Fun loving happens regularly and often compared to the "lack of exercise" we use to engage in.  

Question #2: What's your favourite part of TTWD. 

Well, this one is hard.  I like most things.  It's probably easier to say that I do not like being in trouble.  I'd rather things be nice, smooth and calm.  So I guess that's what I like best, when things are nice, smooth and calm.

Question #3: How do you manage it with children in the house?

It's very hard.  We have a good number of children and the rule of thumb is to do any spanking related activities early in the morning.  Like 5 a.m. usually works for us, but there are two night during the week that are available due to all the kids being away for church related activities.  So, we have time, it's just hard.  I almost always have to wait and there are times that is excruciating.  

Now, questions from across the pond from Ronnie!

What is your favorite spanking implement and why?

Mine would definitely be the flogger.  Why, because he only uses it for nice, sweet, good girl spankings.  Hoss would answer Bertha the (Evil) Bath Brush.  Seriously, recently I told him that was his mistress.  Yeah, I would not recommend saying that if you value sitting down.  It did not turn out pretty.

Did you have a childhood ambition? Did you achieve it?

I wanted to be a mom and I've done that several times over.  I also wanted to work in some sort of "helping" field and I did that before I became a mom and began to stay home with our kiddos.  Last goal is to be a writer and someday, when things calm down, I may get to do that as well.

(I usually give my children this stare when I'm done for the day)

Questions from our lovely Katie T:

Question #1: What new things have you discovered about yourself since starting ttwd? 

I would say I'm more open to physical affection.  I still get "touched out" some days, but so much better had being hugged, cuddled and the like.  I love that I have relaxed in this area and so does my man.  

Question #2: What would your husband say you have worked hard at to change since incorporating ttwd in your lives? 

Listening to him, giving him a voice.  That is something he's repeatedly said he loves, but also loves that I want to be with him more intimately now.  Our sex life has improved the most.

Question #3: What would your hubby say that you need put more effort into in terms of your submission, if anything? 

He has a lot to say on this area.  I'm sure he could write an essay on it.  Hoss was just saying this morning that he really wishes I would follow through on things.  He says I talk a good talk at what I want to change, but it's very hard to follow through.  I claim that I'm easily distracted, but in truth it has more to do with personality wise I'm slow to change and what I see as progress he does not necessarily find as progress.

Question #4: Have your children ever caught you in a spanking moment?

LOL.  Once, last summer, our youngest came in right after we'd finished a bit of a fun spanking.  I was still laying on the bed, clothes back in place, but on my belly, relaxing.  He came in, jumped up on the bed and started to spank me, giggling the whole time.   Hoss and I burst out laughing.  He obviously had heard something, but we had been giggling and laughing, so he apparently thought we'd been having a tickle fight.  We often "play spank" the kids during a tickle war, so he wanted to join in.  Let's just say it was at that time that we moved to early morning times for those kind of adventures.

Some really good questions from Ms. Annabelle:

Question  #1:So who brought TTWD to the relationship and why?

As I said above with Roz, I am guilty of bringing ttwd to the table.  The why is very complicated, but I will do my best to sum it up for everyone.  About two years ago this summer, I began to go through a significant period of depression.  While reading some stuff on the internet I came across domestic discipline.  Looked into it and a few months later brought it to my man for a fun way spice up our love life.  Then in late April of last year I approached him about it being more away of life.  

Question #2, #3 and #4: What happens when your man is plain wrong? Does he admit it? Or do you point it out to him and how does that make you feel?

Let's see, Hoss is never wrong.  LOL, totally just kidding.  He actually is really good about admitting when he is wrong and trying to fix it.  When I have to point something out to him I have to tread carefully though.  It has more to do with our history and me not wanting him to feel I'm pointing out "all" the wrongs he has ever done.  If I'm sweet and respectful than it's usually fine with both of us.  I think that might answer that question.

Thank you all for participating and I hope I did not totally bore you with my answers.  If you were unable to ask me a question before or just thought one up feel free to drop me an email. 


  1. Such sweet wishes for that genie lamp...loved reading all of your answers....hugs abby

    1. Thank you, Abby,
      I really did love your question and it really made me think hard about what I find important.

  2. Thanks for sharing, Baker...definitely wasn't boring...loved reading your answers. Your dinner party sounds as if it would be a very interesting group with lots of good conversation. Oh and btw...drinks can be non-alcoholic. ;) Hope you get a chance to start writing soon...even if it's just short stories.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

    1. Thank you, Cat,
      I know it can be non-alcoholic, we'd choke if we couldn't wash it down with something! It would be fun and interesting throwing a dinner party such as that! The writing is a some day dream, thanks for the encouragement.

  3. Thank you Baker for answering my questions. Was interesting reading all your answers.

    Hugs Lindy xx

    1. Thanks, Lindy,
      I loved your question and I'm happy you found the answers interesting. I think myself rather dull sometimes, so I'm happy others did not see my answers that way.

  4. Hi Baker, I really enjoyed reading this and learning more about you and Hoss through your answers. Glad you are enjoying some wonderful benefits of ttwd. Your little one walking in after a spanking made me giggle.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin and for your loss.


    1. Thank you, Roz,
      I'm happy to share and glad you enjoyed our answers. Yes, our little guy is a hoot and he really knows how to go with the flow apparently! Thank you for your condolences, they are much appreciated.

  5. I love all your answers (and pictures). I would have included Cassie and Tom as dinner guest - except that I talk to them every day. I'm so glad you would like to meet them too.

    1. PK,
      You know Cassie and Tom are wonderful as they are a sweet part of you! Yes, I'd very much love to meet them, and I have to a degree in your wonderful stories. Thanks for being such a great writer and able to give us such a clear view of your sweet friends!

  6. Baker, Enjoyed reading your answers. Thanks for answering mine. I'm looking for a new flogger for P's birthday. I hope you do write a book one day.


    1. Thanks for our encouraging words, Ronnie, and I enjoyed answering your questions. Hope you find a most excellent flogger for P's birthday!

  7. Loved reading all of your answers, Baker. :) It is neat how well ttwd works in terms of being able to look at ways to make oneself focus on being the best version that they can, and really work on things that they want to change in the process. Good for you! good for all of us! :)

    I had a big laugh at your little one popping you some fun spanks. I'll never forget our youngest, who was a younger teen then, slapping her leg in the kitchen (like she was doing the Virginia Reel- might be dating myself here), and asking, "Has anyone heard this kind of thing lately?" Ummmm! LOL! How we laughed. Good that you changed to an earlier hour. I get that! Enjoyed reading all of your answers. Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

    1. I'm happy you loved the answers, Katie,
      I have to so giggle along with you about your youngest too. Those kids have no idea how much we get a kick out of their innocent questions. Yes, our youngest knows how to go with the flow and we love him for it. Happy you could drop in!