Saturday, November 26, 2016

Seriously, What's Going On Here?

Hey, everyone!  I have a bit of a conundrum here.  This is our very first year doing ttwd/dd and really our first big holiday that we have been at the level that we have done stress relief prior to any big event.  It is also one of the first holidays we have conducted at our home that went off with a stress free wife and mommy.  Let me give you the setup and maybe by the end you can help me figure this out a bit.


Thanksgiving morning, early, my man and I were snuggling in bed.  We’d had some lovely “quality time” doing some “extracurriculars” that do not need mentioning when he announced that it was time to get out the bath brush.   Went from this:


to this:


My arch-enemy!

Now, realize, everyone else is blissfully asleep upstairs, thank the Lord our children are heavy sleepers, because it was about to get a tad bit loud.  He laid out a nice firm pillow across his lap and had me take off my pajama bottoms.  He started out gently, but within seconds I was ouching and squirming trying to get off his lap.  I’m never sure why I hold onto that pillow, it never helps to comfort me, so much as it’s something I hold onto for dear life.  So, he’s reminding me to be calm and nice today.  Family is coming over and though I hardly have any conflict with them, I have had conflict with my SIL (his sister) the past weekend, in regards to another SIL causing us both issues.  He does not want conflict or stress.  He wanted a relaxed wife.   He would spank until he got what he wanted.  Stress relief is new.  We’ve done maintenance, discipline and good girls, but not really anything just to reset my stress level.  So far, at least in my opinion, it helps tremendously and I seem to be in a bit less trouble as my sass is less and my submission better.  It took a bit, but the stress level went down and cuddling commenced.  Then I had to get busy with the baking and well, the man, my sweet man went back to sleep.  (He'd worked until past midnight and was awake early, so we could have some time before the rush of the day set in.)


I got busy with the cooking and baking, while everyone else slept.  Read a few blogs and answered well wishes for a happy turkey day.  Sent out texts to my friends wishing them well this holiday season.  I got a bit behind, but no real worries.  Children began to get up and I sent them off to do the cleaning and take showers.  Company began to arrive and pitch in with the cooking or cleaning up the dishes or whatever needed to be done.  It was filled with laughter and talking.  The TV was on with the parade and then football games.  I do not handle the crowding in the kitchen, but I was calm. Dinner was late as one part of the family from a good distance arrived late, but they pitched right in as well.  It was just a nice relaxing day, with little to no stress.  Unheard of here on a normal day, let alone a holiday with us hosting close to 15 additional people.


Well, folks, he got what he wanted.  A relaxed wife.  It was one of the best Thanksgiving we have had in awhile.  There was no fussing from this wife.  I only had one minor slip up with oldest son and daughter not doing their chores quickly enough, but my man stepped in and all was good.  Dinner was not done on time, but no problem.  Plenty of helpers in the kitchen and I did not get upset either. I usually get frustrated when too many people are in my kitchen in the way.  Not this year.  We handled things as a team and both were in tune with one another.


So, dear readers, the question is, but why?  Why does a stress relief spanking reset me to the point I am not letting my ugly side rear it’s head, like at all?  I understand the sexy ones.  They are lovely and well, improve the sex life.  I get discipline, it rids me of the guilt and disappointment, clears the air, so to speak.  Rights wrongs between us.  Maintenance helps me to listen better to him.  It’s more of a way to just reaffirm things.  Helps remind me that I have given my submission to him.  This stress relief though, it seems almost just for me.  Just to reset my whole being into a submissive wife, gentle mommy, and keeps us working together as a team.  The after the spanking almost feels like I’m floating, but yet I’m here, actively involved, enjoying life and things from a different perspective. The different perspective of a dd/ttwd wife.  Anyone, understand what I’m even saying here?  I’m not sure if anyone can explain it, but I’d love to hear your opinions on all of this.

--Baker

22 comments:

  1. What is it? He's got you. He's aware of you. He knows you and he cares. He's promising you he'll keep you safe. He's not going to let you go off the deep end and swirl off into anger by yourself. I guess some men could do this with words, but that a lot to ask of a guy to be able to explain his feelings like this and make you believe. Men like action and they are better at that than talking about 'feelings'. All a that and our love of dominance make spanking the easiest way for them to prove they are there for us.

    But I'll also say - the bath brush is one of the most painful implements. I'm not saying it doesn't have its place, but for some things leather is soooo much better.

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    1. Awww, PK,
      That was very well stated. Thank you! He does not like it when I "swirl off into anger" and isolate myself from him. He knew it would be a really hard day, but he had me, you are right about that. He loves the bath brush. We have tried a few other things, but it is his favorite way to get his point across.
      --Baker

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  2. Hi Baker, I'm so glad you had such a wonderful stress free Thanksgiving. I'm with PK, it's knowing he has you and that you are a team.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thank you, Roz, I think you are both right, he has me. That's the best way to describe what's going on. He reads me well.
      --Baker

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  3. Hey Baker...PK, one of our awesome authors, explained it beautifully. Bottom line...it works and you both, along with your family, reaped the benefits. Enjoy! ;)

    I don't miss most spankings but I do miss the stress busters. ;)

    Oh and in case I've never shared my poem with you:
    Wood is no good,
    Leather is better,
    Feathers are best!

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Cat,
      PK did explain it to the point of excellence! It does work, in such a sweet way. We are just figuring out the stress relief is beneficial. Yes, you've shared your sweet poem, but my man repeats wood is good over and over when I suggest that there are more fun things out there. I think I've said though, that feathers would be very hard for me to cope with-too ticklish.
      --Baker

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  4. Lovely heartfelt post. Glad that you had a wonderful, stressfree Thanksgiving.

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    1. Thanks, Leigh,
      I'm glad you liked it. Yup, it was stress free and has been throughout the weekend for the most part too. Thanks!
      --Baker

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  5. PS, I just read PK's comment. Her writing skills far outweigh mine. I do agree that leather is better.

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    1. Leigh,
      She did write it beautifully. I think the way you all talk I will need to work harder to convince my man that leather is worth a go.
      --Baker

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  6. hi Baker, I have no idea why it works, it just does. I think it is the attention more than anything, keeps us on the straight and narrow. I always wan to please him more somehow. Glad Thanksgiving went well.
    love Jan, xx

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    1. Hi, Jan,
      I do enjoy his attention. He told me the other morning that he wanted to grow old with me, I was the best part of him and I drove him absolutely crazy most days, but he wouldn't change it for anything. I love that! He has me.
      --Baker

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  7. Baker,
    Like PK and Cat said, he has you and he is there for you and he knows what you need.
    Relax and know it is a safe place to be despite the outside world of kids, family, hormones, etc.
    Meredith

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    1. Hi, M,
      Yup, it's safe and I'm learning to trust his words and actions more each day. It has truly enhanced our marriage more than words can say. Cat and PK said things beautifully and very well stated. Yes, I tend to overthink things and do need to relax into things. You know I can be pretty high strung and worry too much as I try to figure out and make sense of things.
      --Baker

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  8. I agree with what PK said. I also smiled st Cat's poem. The reality is that knowing he is with you not just standing next to you!

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    1. Minelle,
      That's just as lovely a thought that "he is with me." An excellent thought. I love what everyone has said, it's extremely encouraging.
      --Baker

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  9. Not sure that anyone could be as eloquent as PK was on this subject. I am sure, however, that a spanking can move my stress meter from the red zone back to center quicker than anything else.

    Ella

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    1. Ella,
      I totally agree about resetting the stress meter. That's very true.
      --Baker

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  10. Agreeing with the other comments and glad you had a stress free day! :)

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    1. Thanks, Lilli,
      I am glad it was stress free too! Thanks for stopping in.
      --Baker

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  11. Hi Baker, :) Not much for me to add here! The comments above sound great!

    There is nothing better than smooth waters! The children see their parents happy, and loving. You and your hubby respond to each other in more and more loving ways than before. I've tried to figure this out for years now. As Jan said above, "It just works!" You bet! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Hey, Katie,
      Just found your comment, lol! Seriously, I need to pay closer attention to what comment goes where. Actually, just going to claim being very tired today. Thank you for your sweet words. Kids do benefit from happy, loving parents!
      --Baker

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